High school is a good place to explore more about yourself and other people. Have you found yourself getting into a relationship that was great at first but slowly started to crumble out of nowhere? It might be because of the honeymoon phase!
“Honeymoon Phase”
The biggest thing that all high school relationships experience is the so called “honeymoon phase.”
The honeymoon phase is the start of a relationship where you become very engaged with the other person.
According to betterhelp.com the “honeymoon phase is associated with feelings of motivation, and reward.”
But what happens after this phase is that you both start to realize the other person’s flaws and this creates arguments, breakups and so on.
“Once the honeymoon high wears off most people realize they no longer are as interested and feel no longer attached.” -betterhelp.com
Effective Communication
Everybody knows about student communication and how important it is in any relationship, but most teenagers have a hard time actually expressing their feelings or accepting the other person’s feelings.
53% of Lakes students who took the poll said “lack of communication” is the biggest reason why high school relationships don’t last according to lhsledger.org.
Ava Scarlett
Scarlett is a senior at Lakes High School and has been in a relationship for a year with her partner. Scarlett has expressed that she is in a loving and positive relationship.
Of course, she has had ups and downs within the relationship, but they both still manage to have a great bond with each other. Let’s see if Scarlett has any advice for fellow high schoolers beginning a relationship.
What does Scarlett think causes high school relationships to Fail?
“Since most high schoolers are young, both people may not yet have the emotional maturity or commitment to maintain a long relationship.” Scarlett shares. So how do Scarlett and her partner keep a positive and steady relational environment?
Scarlett claims, “to have a long lasting or healthy relationship you should prioritize communication, boundaries, respect and transparency with one another.”
Overall, students who are in a relationship should prioritize communication to better their relationship. Make sure to be empathetic and understanding towards the other person’s feelings even if it might not align with yours. Hearing this in one small paragraph might be a bit overwhelming but if you truly love and care for your partner it can work!
How to build good communication
Here are a few tips from your peers that you can try out to improve your communication with your significant other.
Be direct: “If your partner is doing something you don’t really like, don’t be afraid to let them know. If you don’t tell them, they’ll keep doing it and it will push you away from them,” shares Ja’Maree Holmes.
Listen to understand: “When communicating many people forget one of the most important parts is listening to the other person. When your partner is discussing something with you, instead of automatically defending yourself… take a second try to listen and comprehend what they are communicating to you,” recommends Lee Qualls.
Don’t lie: “Even in lying to not hurt their feelings- you still end up hurting them,” says Leon Rutz.
